Monday, May 31, 2010

venting --- yah i was due for one don't ya think?

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rough day.. sore girlie

I woke up Sat morning with an inflamed gum. It was sore but I figured it could wait til monday to see a dentist. I had 3 appts during the day.. 1 for an hr, 1 for 1/2 hr and a 2 hr appt. I also managed to get to the Glebe during the afternoon for the famous garage sale and walk around.

Sunday however was another story. I managed to sleep with a bit of pain and discomfort.. I woke up in at least 50% more pain than the previous day and new I wouldn't make it til Monday. I was up at 8 am (early for me) and searched emergency dental clinics. Found one open at 9 am and called them at 9:10 after cancelling my trip to Montreal for my monthly freedom seminar.

He was a very sweet dentist. This is important in such a delicate area. He saw how inflamed it was and gave me a swab with that bubblegum flavoured numbing stuff.. (no idea what it is). Then he started clearing the infection. I winced and even cried tears of pain and started sobbing.. like a little kid.. I felt like one too! vulnerable and scared.

He said.. you need more freezing.. I said yup.. with what could be seen as a sad pout if it hadn't been for my mouth being pried open by the tools. so.. he injected my gum with novocaine. It immediately made my chest heave (ya you dirty minded guys get over it) and my breathing became laboured. I don't like to do recreational or pharmaceutical drugs as I don't react well to them. My friend later explained to me it's basically cocaine.. yikes. It definitely numbed the pain and my mouth though... so it was worth it.

I wasn't 100% sure I could get out of the chair when he was done. He suggested I need to get the wisdom teeth removed and I agreed.. so we made an appt for Friday. I made it home.. and took some advil and after fighting with my alertness finally gave in and went to sleep for a few hours.

Today.. I answered my phone and a client that I had seen about 3 years ago made an appt. I warned him I couldn't service him orally and he was determined to see me anyway.

oh yeah.. my allergies had been so bad as well that my left eye was sore and swollen so I looked quite a sight. he didn't care and we had a great reunion :)

the rest of my day was spent getting antiobiotics, clove oil (great for teething so thought I'd give it a try) and then getting groceries I could eat .. nothing with too much chewing. I got some more plants for the garden as well and other goodies for the house so I'm spent again.

Veggin'time... night all.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

discounts for good looking guys.... NOT!

Can't stand when guys text me or email me to ask if they get a discount for being good looking. They often like they are so cute and funny I should jump at the chance to see them for a discount or hey.. why not for free? get bent!!!!

Arrogance is the biggest turn off you could ever present me.. next to being rude &/or bargaining with me.. so lose/lose for you! I will tell you to go find someone else.

Granted it seems to happen lately with younger guys.. and I sigh.. they have their momma's tell them how cute and fantastic they are.. and they spread that cocky idiocy around. Older guys tend to mostly have become realistic that looks aren't the major thing we are interested in.. not even remotely. But then again some people never grow up and in their 40's and 50's still hear their mom's voice in their head telling them how great they are.. and they can't believe we don't think so too!


A variety of personalities

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Friday, May 28, 2010

some pics of the arboretum in bloom

The lilacs, peonies and columbine were in bloom as well as a few roses.. but I have to go back in a couple weeks to get good pics of the roses.. My folks were visiting for my birthday this week and this day inspired them to take me to Rona to get some plants for my own garden which they planted last night. It's a good start to my front yard embelishment :)
The licacs smelled great but I didn't take pics of them.. here are some of the peonies, columbine and the irises.. gorgeous colors!

Beating the heat!

We had a couple of hot days here this past week and my A/C isn't working properly yet in the new house.

I had to cool off in my new little kiddy pool :)

Monday, May 24, 2010

Happy Birthday to me! I'm 46 today :) yee ha!

no birthday suit pics today but here are some bikini shots!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Girls night in with Soleil from winnipeg

Met Soleil from Winnipeg while she was touring in Ottawa last week. Erin hosted a party at her place near chinatown.

Angela and I went to pick Soleil up from her hotel and we went over to Erin's. Annessa and a few other girls made it over as well. Erin has a small but very cozy student style apartment and Angela commented that it felt like we were back in University.. it did!

Soleil and Eva hadn't really met any other girls in the industry so were extremely happy to be welcomed so openly. It is an awesome feeling finally finding kindred spirits when most of us have come from a background of keeping a very secretive lifestyle. Erin in particular is very open about what she does and educates those around her about sex (see the previous blog for her recent article).

Sorry no pics guys & girls as not all the girls attending this party show their faces online..

Soleil it turns out is half dutch which is probably why we ended up bonding so well. Friday night was a hoot but Angela and I begged off early (1 am..) while the other ladies partied into the morning and paid for it the next day!

I took Soleil out on Sunday to show her our beautiful city and then we hung out in my large backyard having a bbq and drinks with Angela Sunday afternoon.

So now I have a kindred spirit in Winnipeg who I will visit this summer. I've never been and have wanted to for some time.

Erin's article for newbies on ! love it.

and FYI.. here's Erin herself.. if you want to ever book a duo with her and I.. she's got the same size bra as myself!

Seeing a Sex Worker: The Basics

It's Friday night, you've got no plans and you're feeling lonely/horny/bored or a combination of all three. Why not engage the services of a sex worker? But....but..aren't they just drug abusers who will steal my money? For the average human being, this is the prevailing view. It is a stereotype! Most sex workers are healthy, happy, friendly people who enjoy their jobs. Even if you do know that that is nothing more than a stereotype, finding the right sex worker for your needs can be daunting. One glance at the erotic service ads on Craigslist is enough to send one running for the hills. How can I find a sex worker who is legitimate professional and how can I ensure that I have a great time?

1. Do your research. There are a number of websites devoted to reviewing sex workers. These websites provide reviews written by clientele that describe their encounter, as well as forums for discussion, which include a section for ads that are considered bait and switch (when a sex worker or agency uses photos that are not their own). It covers all of Canada and there are subforums for specific Canadian cities. The sex workers themselves are often members and contribute to the boards. One such website is the Canadian Escort Recommendation Board ( Because CERB has fostered a friendly community (you cannot write bad reviews, if you have nothing positive to say, you are asked to not write), sex workers contribute to the boards in threads about sexual health, and preferences. This is where you will find out things like whether or not a provider sees disabled clients, or whether s/he offers a particular service.

2. Once you have decided on a service provider, you should thoroughly read her/his website. Most sex workers have booking procedures in place and many will not answer your emails if you do not follow the correct procedures. Additionally, any sex worker worth her/his salt will have screening measures in place. If you are not comfortable with her/his screening procedures, you should find someone else. Trying to avoid being screened raises huge red flags for the provider. Many service providers also verify your phone number. Again, if you are not comfortable with this, you should find someone else. These measures are in place for our safety, if you're not willing to give a little, neither are we. Any information you give us will never be used fraudulently and will never be given out. Just like you, we have families and friends and make discretion our business.

So you've finally decided, what now?

3. Know when and for how long you want to see your chosen provider when you book. Make sure that you've chosen a date and time within her/his availability. If you have questions that were not answered on her/his website, ask, but be polite and use common sense. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than receiving an email or a phone call from someone asking things like a) are your pictures real? b) are your breasts real? Etc. The most important thing I can tell you, never try to negotiate. A sex worker charges what the market will bear. It is not a negotiation. If you find the rates to be too pricey for your taste, you have two options: find someone else who is within your price range, or save your money. If you have any special needs that the provider should be aware of, please tell them. We are very open-minded, but we do not like surprises. Also, because we receive a large number of emails, many will not reply to messages asking questions that have already been answered on our website. This is why it pays to do your research.

During the Appointment

4. Make sure you shower prior to the appointment. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than poor hygiene. Some sex workers will make you shower once you're there, regardless. Usually they will join you for a sexy soap-up. It should go without saying, but do not see a sex worker if you have any STD's. If there is anything questionable about your bits, expect the provider to either refuse to see you or to severely restrict the menu. For example, if you have a strange rash on your genitals, the provider may refuse to perform oral sex (covered or not). Don't expect to be allowed to perform oral sex on the provider if you have cold sores. Sex workers practice safe sex, always, don't ever ask us to compromise our health. Additionally, sex workers will send you packing if you try to negotiate unsafe sex, i.e. barebacking. If a sex worker can be talked into this act, s/he is not a professional.

5.Relax! We are professionals and are used to dealing with nerves. Let us guide you and just enjoy the ride.

6.Make sure you provide the fee up front. An unsealed envelope is preferred. It makes many of us uncomfortable to have to ask for it. Make things easy for everyone, and just hand it to us once the appointment starts.

7.Keep an eye on the time. Most providers pride themselves on their unrushed services. We are not clock-watchers. Be respectful and don't go over your time. If you are nearing the end of your appointment and would like to extend, ask your provider if s/he has the time to do so. S/he may have other appointments or s/he may not. It is rude to assume and go over your time limit without asking. If you do happen to lose track of time and you go over, you should at least offer to pay for the extra time.

8.Be discreet and respect our personal boundaries. Don't ask personal questions or call all hours of the day/night. Respect that we are providing a service, and that we are not looking for boyfriends or girlfriends. You are not buying a person.

9.Don't play rescuer. Not all sex workers are trying to get out of the industry or are in need of help. Ask us if we need anything but remember that not everyone is looking for a Pretty Woman ending.

10.If a sex worker tells you that you might be a better fit with someone else, do not push the issue. Just because we offer sexual services for a fee doesn't mean that we have to see everyone who emails us. Many of us are able to screen for compatibility as well as safety. Respect his/her decision and move on to your next choice.

A little bit of research goes a long way. If you follow these steps, you will have a great time. Happy hunting!
Ottawa Sexlife Journal

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Moved into a new house!

This last move was not my choice. I loved where I was living.. but the owners wanted to sell and I didn't want to buy... so I moved. I'm no longer in westboro but the neighbourhood I moved into is so lovely and I'm happy to have had to move as it's a blessing in disguise. This house is much larger.. with several windows and a huge space for a rec-room in the basement as well as a giant backyard so I can sunbath and garden :) Now if they want to sell this house in a year or so.. I would definitely consider buying it!

I'm in the south east end of the city near Alta Vista. Of course I will be more specific when clients book an appt :)